The ‘Control freak’ pastor.
9 characteristics of a ‘control freak’ pastor.http://dictatorpastors.yolasite.com/thugs-in-the-pulpit.php
By Les Parrott
The most obvious and overarching characteristic of a controlling pastor is, of course, the desperate desire to be in control. But there’s more to this desire than meets the eye. See if any of these traits make you a little nervous:
1. Obnoxious. Control freaks can be characterized as people who are offensive, injuring nearly every relationship they have with their controlling and pernicious ways.
2. Tenacious. It’s part of the “Control Freak Code”: “Don’t ever, ever, ever, give in.” The “control freak” pastor could easily spend several minutes correcting a story he is being told. No matter that the detail he’s concerned about makes absolutely no difference to the story, he wants to be right.
3. Invasive. Some controlling pastors exhibit an invasive quality by poking around in their parishioners’ private lives–in a “ministerial” sort of way. “Saintly” control freaks will cloak their invasiveness in religious garb. “Why has the Lord put you on my heart?” they may ask as a way of getting their gossip fix.
4. Obsessive. Control freaks obsess about anything and everything, from a person’s offhanded remark to where people are seated around a conference table. Anything can become their obsession, causing them to lose perspective and neglect the big picture.
5. Perfectionistic. Listen carefully, and you will hear controlling ministers say under their breath, “I can’t believe I did that, what a jerk.” They will berate themselves for not having everything go exactly the way they wanted it to. We all get frustrated from time to time because something throws a chink in the works, but the typical control freak can’t let it go.
6. Critical. Everyone knows control freaks can be some of the most painfully critical people you’ll ever meet. It seems they can’t keep their critical comments in check. They blurt out their critiques as easily as a professional reviewer gives a “thumbs down” to a movie.
7. Irritable. Cranky and contentious. Touchy and testy. Those who work closely with the control freak know to walk on eggshells if they don’t want to set him or her off. The tiniest of things can ruin the control freak’s day.
8. Demanding. This is a mainstay for control freaks. To get their way, they often resort to making demands. Like a kidnapper who is trying to secure a ransom, they order people around at their whim and fancy.
9. Rigid. In the hugely successful TV hit Seinfeld, one of the most popular episodes was based on a real-life situation and titled “The Soup Nazi.” It centered around a feisty man running a small eatery where New Yorkers stood outside in long lines to enjoy takeout orders of this guy’s delicious soup creations.
The catch? Customers had to put up with this control freak’s rigid rules. Only one customer in the store at a time. Place your order immediately. Do not point. Don’t ask questions. Pay and leave. If you wanted to feast on these tasty soups, you did as the man said. And if you didn’t? “No soup for you,” the Soup Nazi would snap. “Come back three months.”
The episode struck a chord with viewers because we all know control freaks who live by rigid rules and expect us to do the same. http://www.youtube.com/watch?
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